Tribute To John R. Hanson
By
John W. Giles
I would rather have a plain coffin without a flower --- A funeral without a eulogy --- than a life without the sweetness of love and sympathy --- Let us learn to anoint our friends beforehand --- for their burial --- Post-mortem kindness does not cheer the burdened spirit ----- Flowers on a coffin cast no fragrance backward over the weary way.
George William Childs
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John R. Hanson |
In John 12 --- Jesus said, "The hour has come for the Son of Man to be glorified. I tell you the truth, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains alone a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds. The man who loves his life will lose it, while the man who hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life.
In order to have fruit eternally, we must be like the grain of wheat and die
Thursday afternoon, about 3:00 PM – Our heavenly Father was glorified, because his servant, John R. Hanson, Jr. followed the path of his savoir Jesus Christ in suffering and death, which has and will produce seeds now and in eternity
Death is so final - Life is a vapor – so temporary when measured against eternity – Alpha to Omega
Ecclesiastes 3 versus 1 & 2 says: There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot
Had the Lord taken a poll among all of us here Thursday afternoon with a question like – “Do you approve of me taking John Hanson home today – It would have been a resounding …. NO
That answer my friend is all about us – and if I might suggest is a bit self-centered – we are not even considering any heavenly sovereignty much loftier that we can comprehend
To uproot as suggested in Ecclesiastes is so disruptive, untimely & painful. Yet ---- divinely ordained!!!
While we are here to celebrate the life of John Hanson --- today in this service - we also need to face with understanding the gripping and sobering reality of death.
As we pause today and celebrate the life of John Hanson – we all have a story to tell
· At the outset I wanted to change his name to John HANDSOME – in fact privately I would refer to him as John Handsome. He was indeed so handsome.
· Last Sunday John & Debbie celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary
· Debbie had a crush on John since she was 15 -- he was a good looking baseball pitcher who could play the drums like Ringo Starr and today would give Arnold Palmer a run for his money on the back nine
· John and Debbie truly lived a love story before our eyes thru high mountains and low valleys
· John was a hard working protector and provider for his family
· He loved his wife, family and friends and you knew it
· Just to mention a few of his attributes are unflinchingly honesty – impeccable integrity – unmatchable work ethic – endowed with priceless common sense & in the hardest of times he was able to stay focused on the positive
· This by no means is an exhaustive list – not to mention his Saturday Night Live Award winning Humor
· One of John’s favorite quotes was from the movie Spencer’s Mountain, which goes like this “The world steps aside to a man who knows where he is going”
· John was always on a mission
· Debbie, you are a role model wife – your love for John was a billboard for the world to read
· Your eyes glitter and smile when you talk about John – to this day you are giddy as a school girl talking about your John
· You have been a glowing example for Destin as a wife, protective & nurturing mother and even your latest role as a skillful nurse – even though sometimes you forgot to take medicine out of the refrigerator for Jayne the nurse
· Debbie --- you have fought the good fight -- Well Done my daughter
· Destin, your love for your dad sparkled to us all – you are so sweet like your mom and it is obvious to all of us you are starting a new generation with the fingerprints of your mom and dad
· John Richard looks and acts just like his dad – all of the lady folks say he is just as handsome as his daddy
· John Richard is a hard worker just like his father – He runs Clean Living and lets all be sure to use Clean Living for our carpet cleaning
· We all remember John Richard dancing with his mother at Destin’s wedding – what a show
· Thursday afternoon – I asked John Richard if he wanted to hold my throat. Many of you recall John Richard as a young lad enjoyed holding everyone’s throat.
· While all of us consider ourselves friends of the Hanson family – we now have a new example of friendship – the new definition of friendship is Julie Turner Beard - We all Thank You Julie
· Debbie, Destin & John Richard, it is OK to keep him alive by laughing and crying over the memories and the unique quirks of his personality
All of us remember the unconventional behavior of John’s personality – My Deborah and I would generally eat lunch together every day when I was in town. We would often meet John and sometimes Debbie would join us as well. Anytime we would mention someplace to eat outside of Xtapia or Martins, John would always say we were moving him way to fast. He did not like it outside his comfort zone. Can you see it.
We all have our stories – but if I were honest I cannot in good consciousness share a lot of these stories behind this sacred desk of the gospel
One story I can share is that John and I were in Washington DC attending an International Franchise show. We were looking over our competition before we launched a Peaches n’ Clean Franchise program here in Alabama.
John is so funny; there was a street person who came into the old post office where we were that had been converted to a food court. He made himself comfortable at one of the tables and fetched his lunch and a cigarette from the garbage bin. He set up his drink and food and began to enjoy his established position as an honored patron.
A group of lady’s came into the food court so bubbly and full of life from what appeared to be a girlfriend day out. They were obviously breaking for some lunch. Of course, these ladies lit up the room with all of their drama and John noticed our street friend peering in on their lunch. As this guy reared back in his chair smiling, smoking a cigarette and watching this little performance, John said I know exactly what that guy is thinking. He said look at him, he is imagining himself sitting at that table with those ladies and they are all taken with him and doting all over him. You all know John’s imagination. I said, John, how did you get all of that out of this guy smoking a cigarette. As usual when John would open up a can of Saturday Night live, we would almost black out from laughing.
Turning now to a more serious tone
John was deeply moved by all of the cards, letters, financial gifts, friends on FB and Caring Bridge
He told me he would never be the same – first he was going to write everyone and tell them thank you
Second he was so humbled by people caring who hardly knew him but were touched by his story
He said he would never treat lightly the news of someone sick in the future – he was committed to touching them in some way
George William Childs said, “I would rather have a plain coffin without a flower --- A funeral without a eulogy --- than a life without the sweetness of love and sympathy --- Let us learn to anoint our friends beforehand --- for their burial --- Post-mortem kindness does not cheer the burdened spirit ----- Flowers on a coffin cast no fragrance backward over the weary way.”
Thank you all for giving John the sweet fragrance of flowers over the past 3 months of his life – well done my good friends
Anoint your friends while they are still living
Suffering is not our typical “classroom of choice” in life
Suffering does have its purification – remember the cross
All of us including John immeasurably benefitted through this suffering
It makes us bitter – or better
We are all better people today having traveled this painful road with our friend
We run from suffering – but – it purifies
Thank you for staying awake in John’s Garden of Gethsemane
John had no unfinished business – John owed no man anything but to love them
I visited John at UAB about 2 weeks ago. Debbie stepped outside to check on his nausea medicine and he said – John “You know, they are wanting to come and get me – it is pretty serious – have you heard – I am ready!! He asked me if I knew what he was talking about and I affirmed.
He said I was right behind him – in fact everyone is right behind me
I reminded him what I said to him years ago – I said you remember me saying --- you have me for life
John kept his end of our contract – you have me for life – we are all going to need to renegotiate that contract with an added clause – “until we meet again”
The Apostles Creed, which was written in the 1st century AD, says “we believe in the communion of Saints”
John now joins the “Cloud of witnesses spoken of in Hebrews”
We are separated – but we are still together – we will meet again one day
When we lost our son Micah – Deborah was putting on makeup in the master bathroom on the day of the funeral. She noticed in this somber moment preparing to bury our son that the birds were singing up a storm outside. It was a beautiful spring morning and these birds were singing from the depths of their soul. She paused and thought, didn’t these birds get the memo, my son is being buried today; is this a cheerful day? Why are they singing? They kept on singing and she began to regain her sense about this and thought these birds must be giving her a divine message. Life goes on, we sing on earth and we will be singing in heaven. This is the day the Lord hath made and we will rejoice in it and be glad. In fact, the thought also occurred to her that these birds were signing as a sign that heaven was rejoicing at Micah coming home.
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John & Debbie Hanson
Love Story |
King David tells us in Ps 68 that God is a father to the fatherless & a defender of widows
God will be faithful to fill the empty void left behind by John…Trust Him.
Debbie, Destin & John Richard, the birds will be singing in the morning!!